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When a person is jealous, it usually means he or she is insecure about something. Jealousy is an angry feeling that stems from a belief that there is only a finite amount of love to go around and that your source of love is being diminished by the presence of another person. This means that it is an emotion that has evolved to protect one’s resources, particularly love and nurturing. It is an unpleasant emotion to experience and is very hard to shake.

Why are People Jealous?

A desire to control
Intense possessiveness
Fear of being abandoned or betrayed
A misguided sense of ownership of your spouse
Unrealistic expectations about marriage in general
Fear of losing someone or something important to them
Unrealistic expectations about your relationship
Hurtful experience of abandonment in the past
Poor self-image

Jealous individuals experience a multitude of feelings including fear, anger, humiliation, sense of failure, feeling suspicious, threatened, rage, grief, worry, envy, sadness, doubt, pain, and self-pity.

A small amount of jealousy in any relationship is considered a good/normal thing because it shows that deep emotions are tied to this relationship. When jealousy is mild and occasional, it reminds the couples not to take each other for granted. It encourages couples to appreciate each other and make a conscious effort to make sure the other person feels valued. Jealousy heightens emotions, making love feel stronger and sex more passionate

But when it’s intense or irrational, the story is very different; when you get to the point where you cannot even say a word to a member of the opposite sex at a party because you fear the inevitable wrath which will follow from your lover when you get home, your relationship is in jeopardy

Irrational jealousy means that your emotions are not based on a fair appraisal of the situation, and that you are wasting your energies. Possibly, this could lead to the destruction of an already existing relationship, or the loss of an opportunity to develop a relationship

Irrational jealousy can poison any relationship! For example, it can ruin good communication between people, causing a downward spiral of unfounded arguments and fights. Clear, sensitive open communication is the key

Eliminating jealousy is not a quick process. Jealousy is a trait of character, a frame of mind and an emotion, and as such getting rid of it is a gradual evolution that requires work, self-reflection, patience, and persistence

The great news is that the rewards of dealing with and overcoming jealousy will likely keep you free of jealousy for the rest of your life and will make your future relationships much more successful.

So, what are the steps that you can take to deal with and overcome jealousy and possessiveness?

The first and the most important step in dealing with jealousy is, like with many other issues is recognizing that you have a problem. Most people who have jealousy issues are in denial and refuse to admit that their behavior and perception are irrational and their lack of trust is unsubstantiated by any real facts. Accept the fact that whether you trust your partner or not, whether you question his actions or not, and whether you “spy” on him has no positive effect on his behavior and faithfulness

If a man or a woman wants to cheat, he / she will find a way to cheat, and there is nothing you can do to prevent it.

So, stop it! Stop assuming the worst about him. Stop wondering where he is and what he is doing at any given moment! Assume the best about your partner and his faithfulness to you until and unless you have real reasons to believe otherwise.

If you have tried everything and nothing has worked,
hypnotherapy can really help you overcome jealousy!

Interested in learning more about Hypnotherapy? Check out the International Medical and Dental Hypnotherapy Association.